NLP coaching can give you a greater awareness of the strategies you use on a day to day basis to make decisions, take action and navigate your way through life.
everything as unfair. A negative reaction given out to the world is more likely to result in a negative response received back that confirms our beliefs. This vicious cycle may continue through habit and unawareness unless it is consciously broken. When someone is able to break such a cycle of attitudes, beliefs and behaviours they generally start to feel a real transformation in their lives.
Our beliefs and values, along with experiences we encounter on a day to day basis will inform our attitudes. Our attitudes in turn will influence how we react to people and events around us. If we feel like life has given us a raw deal we are likely to react as though we see
hence have a richer experience of life. Whilst some of or beliefs will not cause us problems in life it can be very useful to uncover and identify those that do, for example, by stifling our self confidence or perhaps perpetuating a poor relationship.
of the time. However most of us will have a preferred sensory (representational) system that has a stronger influence on our selection of information and interpretation of the world than other systems.
Let's take the office example above one stage further and change the question from 'what did you see?' to 'tell me about it'. A third person, Jake, may describe the hubbub of chatter or the texture of the flooring, rather than anything visual. And again, it will probably be a familiar concept that some people are more stimulated by sights (visual), others by sounds (auditory) or 'feelings' (kinesthetic), by smell (olfactory) or by taste (gustatory).Of course people generally use their full range of senses a lot
like. How we filter information is important to our understanding of the world (our map) and the direction we take when responding to people and situations we encounter.
So when we make sense of the world around us we are actually making sense of information we allow to filter through to us (either consciously or subconsciously) - it is not reality but our experience of reality. Subsequently the routes we decide to take in life minute by minute or longer term will be based on our own 'map of the world' i.e. our perception of what the world is
touch, see, smell. But we just don't have the capacity to process everything that comes to us so we filter much of it out and are left with a manageable amount of information that is selective. A simple example would be when two
two people walk into a room for a few minutes (let's say an office) and are then asked to describe what they saw. Whilst both are likely to have observed the biggest and most obvious items (e.g. desks and chairs), Joanne for example, may also have noticed the colour of the walls whilst Peter did not. And Peter may have noticed the plants by the windows whilst Joanne did not.
Through our senses we are presented with a huge volume of information every day from our environment: what we hear, feel,
NLP is an ever growing collection of ideas about how the mind works as well as a 'toolkit' you can use to give you a better experience of life, whether your definition of 'better' is to be happier, healthier, fitter, have more courage, more confidence, better job opportunities, the ability to learn new things more quickly, be more efficient...
Some of the fundamental ideas of NLP are explained below,
We have have so many decisions to make every minute of every day that if we did not make some of them into habits we would never get anything done. So in that respect having habits / routines (getting up time, what to eat for breakfast) saves on 'thinking' time we can use for more important things. On the other hand when we do things routinely we become de-sensatised to some extent and run the risk of unintended consequences: habits we form in our twenties may serve us badly in our forties! Habits are based on our unconscious 'strategies' and can include how we think as well as the things we do. It can be useful to review our strategies and habits regularly to make sure they are appropriate and helping us achieve our goals in life.
in it). But if we don't have a well formed strategy we may end up buying a beautiful, expensive dress.that we never wear and which makes us feel guilty about our money management skills.
Our experience of life from the information we have filtered (from sights, sounds, feelings smells and tastes) gives a shape to our emotions (more about emotions in the HeartMath pages). In addition we add an 'internal voice' (auditory digital system) that helps us use the the information to form a 'strategy'. Our internal strategies are the processes we use to decide on actions. So in the process of shopping for example, our strategy may be a mixture of visual (we see a dress we like) and kinesthetic (we try it on and feel
We also use our beliefs, values and attitudes to filter information. Generally speaking our beliefs and values are hugely important to us and we hold on to them tightly because they become part of how we define ourselves. When we look at the world around us we tend to filter out information that contradicts what we believe and accept information that confirms our beliefs are correct. As we grow and develop we will automatically understand that some of our beliefs are not so useful e.g. 'Santa Clause actually does not exist' or 'Actually I am not so bad at maths compared to others'. If we question our own beliefs, we can develop a better understanding of ourselves and the world around us and
With this awareness you can focus on, practice and become more proficient at using those strategies that are successful in helping you live the life you want and replace strategies that are holding you back. NLP provides easy, practical and fun ways to make these changes in order to get the results and experiences you have always wanted. Once a strategy is designed it often takes only a few minutes to implement or to practice.
Language (words, meanings and delivery style) is such a powerful way of communicating ideas and feelings not just to other people, but also to ourselves. The things we hear most regularly, and the deeper the emotion evoked by that language, the greater the impact of that communication on our strategies and on relationships with ourselves and others. If we can be in situations when we hear positive language delivered in a positive way our strategies are most likely to contribute a better experience of life both for ourselves and the people around us.
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